2 Corinthians 10:3-5 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: 4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Wanting to be accepted and to fit in is a natural thing everyone experiences but it can often cause unnecessary pressure to compromise our values, standards, and beliefs. Very often it is the spirit of fear that brings the fear of rejection into the situation beyond the normal desire to belong and to fit in. This fear of rejection is the underlying power of “peer pressure” that causes us to crave recognition and acceptance from the group we want to be identified with. When the spirit of rejection gets on a person they tend to always strive to prove their worth to people which can be exhausting.
Having unrealistic expectations can also set us up for rejection and to take rejection too personal. We may need to be more realistic in order to win the mental battle with peer pressure (2 Corinthians 10:3-5). Peer pressure can only be beat with spiritual weapons and our responsibility to cast down imaginations, reasonings, and high things contrary to the Word of God. Some realistic thoughts we should arm ourselves with:
- IT WOULD BE NICE IF EVERYONE LIKED ME, BUT NOT NECESSARY.
(No one is liked by everyone. Jesus had favor with God and men (Luke 2:52) yet some did not like Him. Realize we cannot control the actions of others and daily claim favor with God and men Luke 2:52. Keep in mind that you are not alone because rejection happens to everyone.
- REJECTION DOES NOT MEAN WE ARE NOT GOOD, NOT OK, OR THAT WE ARE DEFECTIVE.
(Rejection has nothing to do with our “OK-NESS.” God said we are accepted in the beloved (Ephesians 1:6) when we got saved and that means He thinks we are “OK”. He declared us righteous in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21) which means He has judged us right (OK) with Him according to His standard of what is right (OK).
- ONE PERSON’S REJECTION IS SIMPLY THEIR OPINION, NOT EVERYONE ELSE’S.
(When rooted in rejection we think “something is wrong with me; the real me is not acceptable, so I need to produce a pretend me; or I need to talk, act, dress, and think like someone who seems to be accepted.” We should avoid over generalizations – everybody does not hate us and everything is not our fault.
- REJECTION CAN DO YOU A FAVOR AND KEEP YOU FROM SOMETHING OR SOMEONE NOT GOOD FOR YOU.
(Some deduct that since someone rejected me and what was meant to be cannot happen then I will never be happy. Rejection can save you time and emotional energy in relationships and positions that are not meant for you. Would you rather be rejected straight up or be lead on to later be rejected? Rejection can be doing you a favor and sometimes redirect or points you in a different direction you may never have considered).
When we try to prove our worth, we are in effect surrendering to others more power than we give ourselves over how we view and feel about ourselves. We should not let someone else’s opinion of us determine our worth. Our worth is determined by the price paid for us – the precious blood of Jesus. “Forasmuch as you know ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as of silver and gold, … But with the precious BLOOD OF CHRIST, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot 1 Peter 1:18, 19.”
People who experience and know they are loved by God have a deep sense of peace and security because they know they’ve been accepted by the One:
- Who has the most reason to reject them but accepted them Ephesians 1:6.
“To the praise of the glory of His grace wherein He hath made us accepted in the beloved.”
- Who knows the worst about them yet loved them Romans 5:8.
“But God commendeth His love towards us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”