John 14:16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another COMFORTER, that he may abide with you for ever; 17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth Him not, nether knoweth Him: but ye know Him; for He dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
Jesus shortly before His arrest and Crucifixion gave His disciples last minute instructions in the discourse recorded in John chapters 14-16. He knew they’d face a new aloneness they hadn’t experienced before because He was about to leave them. He also knew they’d face a new antagonism directed at them like it was directed at Him. In four different references (John 14:16; 14:26; 15:26; 16:7) He tells them that a replacement, another to fill in for Him, and another that would be to them all that He had been to them would come called the Comforter which is the Holy Ghost. The word for Comforter in its various forms and parts of its root word can mean:
- One called to ones side to help (or to pick up).
- One who speaks tenderly.
- One who gives solace (or a soothing like a medicine that relieves irritation or pain).
This is what the Comforter the Holy Ghost does: He comes alongside us to pick us up by speaking tenderly to us and in a way that soothes our pain like a medicine. Jesus said He would be with us forever. That means we have comfort available to pick us up, speak tenderly to us, and soothe our pain like a medicine FOREVER. People often resort to remedies for hurt and pain that do not work that the Word of God cautions us against.
- Ignoring it Matthew 18:15; Luke 17:3, 4.
- Running from it Psalm 55:6, 8.
- Hiding it in our heart Leviticus 19:17-19.
- Resenting it Leviticus 19:17-19.
- Worrying about it Psalm 37:8.
We can also look at the lives of these Bible people to see the outcome of not processing pain Biblically:
Cain (Genesis 4:1-15) – Anger, murdered his brother, ended up cursed, became a vagabond and a wanderer.
The brother of the prodigal (Luke 15:25-29) – Anger, withdrawal from celebrating with others, full of self pity and carnal judging.
Barnabas (Acts 13:1-3; 15:40) – Severed a Divine joining of ministry with the Apostle Paul, missed out on God’s plan to spread the Gospel to Europe, never mentioned again in Scripture.
We shouldn’t ignore our pain but pay attention to our pain and learn to process it Biblically. One of the ways is to allow the Comforter, The Holy Ghost, to comfort us. Pray in the Holy Ghost (Jude 20) but listen inside for His tender comfort. It is better than trying to run away from it, medicating our pain with drugs, or drowning our pain with alcohol. No side effects either, just relief. Why should we live in emotional or mental pain when, thank God, the Comforter HAS come John 14:16?