Lamentations 3:22-23 It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.
Jesus is the Master at fixing anything we release to Him. In both the new birth (2 Corinthians 5:17) and confession of our sin to receive forgiveness (1 John 1:9) we get to start over. His mercies are new every morning. This can also apply to sins or wrongs done to us by others. Our failure to forget (and forgive) can be an opportunity to return to living in what we came out of (Hebrews 11:15). People who endlessly rehash past events, failures, or bad experiences can get locked into them and trapped into the same emotions they experienced when it first happened. Re-voicing it, rehearsing it, re-feeling it will never bring the freedom that forgiveness or releasing it can bring. Why not let yourself start over?
So how do we forget? Forgetting is not the inability to recall or retrieve a memory; it is not amnesia, but rather displacement and replacement. We can always remember and recall things. Forgetting involves two things: remembering something else that displaces the bad memory and neglecting to feed the past memory. Remember the story of Joseph when he saw his brothers after his ordeal, he remembered, he knew who they were and what they did, but he retrieved the memory without the pain because something had replaced the pain. God’s purpose and plan became bigger to him than the pain. He said, “What you meant for evil, god meant for good; what you meant to destroy me, God used it to save all of you. The word forgetting in Philippians 3:13 …forgetting that which is behind… means “neglect;” leave unattended; refuse to take notice; disregard. In other words, don’t feed, water, and fertilize what you want to end.