God’s love does not reason about or reflect upon that which causes or constitutes misfortune, suffering, difficulty, or the like. God’s love does not ponder upon wickedness or plot to do evil. It doesn’t think, plan, or plot revenge or a “payback.”
Love also keeps no record of wrong or memory list. It does not keep score or inwardly rehearse ill treatment. The word for thinketh means to account, reckon, or credit to ones account like an accountant would for every financial transaction. Hurt and offended people keep a record of wrongs that they often revisit and re-feel. This only builds resentment or unforgiveness.
Resentment comes from two words.
1. Re: again.
2. Sent: from Fr. “sentir” and Latin “sentire” – to feel, to sense.
It means to feel again the hurt, slight, wrong, insult, or offense. An offense is something that outrages the senses and emotions while resentment suggests a longer lasting indignation and smoldering ill will. Resentment appears to be a cluster of anger and thought. Resentment is the state of holding something in the mind as a subject of contemplation or reflection. Hurt and injury are always involved. When an expectation is not met we get hurt; this leads to anger, which leads to a decision to hold in the anger and hurt and re-feel it from time to time. It is holding on to or showing feelings of intense animosity (hatred/anger) or vindictiveness (wanting to get back at someone). A synonym is unforgiveness, bitterness, being merciless, or holding a grudge. You file away a hurt and grudge list and revisit it from time to time. Leviticus 19:17-19 warns against silence that is holding hate and holding a grudge. Release it and let it go for resentment is a dead end; there is no place to go with it; it can only affect you negatively; it wastes time and energy; it is unproductive.
Love holds no grudges. A spark of hate cannot harm a sea of love and love has amazing power to forget as God does our offences. Psalm 130:3, 4 says, “If thou, Lord, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand? But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared.”
Micah 7:18,19 also says, “Who is a God like unto thee, who pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? He retaineth not his anger forever, because he delighteth in mercy. He will turn again; he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.
Love enables to forgive it, forget it, drop it, and move on.
I don’t think most Christians have any idea of the capacity we have in our born again, new creation spirit man. We have the same capacity to love and forgive like God does for Romans 5:5 says, “And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.” I think we can always retrieve a memory of past hurts and offences but love, like God, chooses not to. Hebrews 8:12 says, “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.”