1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails …. NASB
God’s love in us prompts right behavior but it also restrains inappropriate behavior. In our culture, rude, crude, and lewd behavior is becoming more commonplace and acceptable. It seems that some are even rewarded monetarily for it and sought out for their shock value. What we see as appropriate and acceptable today would have been totally unacceptable to previous generations. Much of what is unseemly, indecent, and unbecoming in our modern culture would be corrected by the God kind of love, or the love of God influencing behavior.
You will notice in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 that it defines what love is and what love is not. First Corinthians 13:5 says that love does not act unbecomingly. God’s love does not act, react, function, or perform in a manner which is in bad taste, improper, or in violation of what is right. It does not behave contrary to form, fashion, or proper manner. It is not rude, ill mannered but rather courteous. It acts appropriately and fitting to the situation, giving respect and honor consideration in all the relations of life. Love prompts us to all that is fit and becoming in life and holds us from all that is unfit and unbecoming.
Love certainly would not act out of its place but observes proper decorum, protocol, and good manners. It doesn’t act unseemly or unbecomingly but unseemly conduct that love avoids speaks of behavior and conduct that goes beyond the superficial issues of etiquette in social settings. The word for unbecomingly is “aschemoneo” and means to behave disgracefully, dishonorably, in an unseemly or unbecoming manner. Love avoids conduct that would be improper, indecent, disgraceful or deserving of reproach. Love avoids what is indecent or what is obscene, vulgar, crude, lewd, filthy, immodest, and things offensive to standards of decency especially in sexual matters. Love does not behave inappropriately for the circumstance in any given moment but also love does not behave in what is morally inappropriate. Love behaves in appropriate ways and morals defined by what God says is right, holy, just, and good.
Ps 119:128 Therefore I esteem all thy precepts concerning all things to be right; and I hate every false way. 129 Thy testimonies are wonderful: therefore doth my soul keep them. 130 The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple.