Mark 11:25, 26 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any that your Father also, who is in heaven, may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father, who is in heaven, forgive your trespasses.
Forgiveness is release of an “ought,” what is owed or an obligation. The obligation can be of what should have been done or the obligation can be of what shouldn’t have been done. In forgiveness we are releasing others from our:
1. PERSONAL JUDGMENT (we quit bringing the case before our mind to judge its wrong).
2. PERSONAL VENGEANCE (we quit making plans to avenge the wrong).
3. PERSONAL PREDICTIONS (we quit making predictions of what is going to happen because they wronged us).
Unforgiveness is a refusal to release. We may think we are making someone else pay for hurting us but in reality we are the ones who pay more. It hurts us more than the one we refuse to forgive as it becomes a device Satan uses that gives him an advantage over us (2 Corinthians 2:10, 11).
Psalm 130:3, 4 says, “If thou, Lord, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand? But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared.”
Our Father doesn’t mark (attend to; preserve; reserve; save; keep) our iniquities. Our relationship to the Father couldn’t exist or continue without forgiveness from Him (Ephesians 1:7; 1 John 1:9). Keep in mind that it is a relationship between a Divine Perfect Being (God, our Father) and imperfect human beings (us), that it is only through forgiveness from Him, that our relationship is maintained.
What does that suggest about relationships between two imperfect human beings? In like manner, we need forgiveness if we ever hope to maintain our relationship to our mate, children, brothers, sisters, etc