Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
All children of God are to be peacemakers not quarrelsome and contentious. Peacemakers are ones who can reconcile and end hostilities. We are never blessed when we’re the ones disturbing the peace, but only when we are the ones making the peace.
Peacemakers are those who practice peacemaking attitudes (yielding, forbearing, forgiving, honest communication, self control…) and who endeavor to settle disputes not just win fights. Peacemakers know how to do everything possible on their part to live peaceably with all men (Romans 12:18). That doesn’t mean you have to agree if you don’t or for the sake of peace try to be so agreeable you compromise the truth or lose your integrity. It means you make the necessary effort to keep peace, you do not exasperate situations by carnal attitudes, you keep your motives right, and when you disagree you can do it in a civil and healthy manner.
We must not allow our differences and disagreements to open the door to strife. Strife is a deadly enemy that is described as demonic wisdom which is earthly, sensual, and devilish James 3:15, 16. Proverbs 6:16-19 reveals that there are seven things the Lord hates and four of them are strife related. To live in love, peace, and harmony requires that we refuse strife, discord, and disharmony.
Some conflicts are unavoidable and we shouldn’t feel guilty because they present themselves but we have to work through them. Sometimes following Jesus and loyalty to that relationship does not cause peace but acts as a sword to other relationships (Matthew 10:34-38). Within ourselves we need to know how to respond and be able to discern when it is our fault (Matthew 5:23, 24), when it is not our fault (Matthew 18:15), when it is up to the other party now because we’ve done all we can do (Romans 12:18), and when it is not our problem but theirs (Galatians 6:1).