1 Corinthians 7:33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
In the world today, there are many books and materials on the “how to’s” of every aspect of marriage, all of which testify to the fact that marriages need our attention. Most of the time, in Christianity, they are a testimony of how a couple tapped into the wisdom of God and revelation of the Word of God tailored to their circumstance. They are helpful and give hope but very often they do not fit our personal situations. Most people are inclined to show love to their spouse in the same way that they like to receive it. Our spouse may need something different to feel like they are loved, cared for, and important to us.
One of the foundations that a Christian marriage is built upon is a commitment to please one another or our spouse. That means to do all we know to please them in the areas of their likes and preferences that is within our capabilities to do so and within the boundaries of the Word of God (1 Corinthians 7:33, 34). The word for please in 1 Corinthians 7:33, 34 means to please; to be pleasing to; acceptable to; to endeavor to please and render service; to be disposed to take a pleasant attitude toward. Why not tap into the “built in marriage manual” in our spouse and ask them how they like to be talked to, treated, and supported to feel they are loved? This is doable isn’t it? With the love of God poured forth into our hearts ((Romans 5:5), yes, the capability is within us to do this and to be pleasing to our spouse.