Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
2 Timothy 1:9 Who hath saved us, and called us with an holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began,
Knowing our purpose in life can help us make determinations as to the relationships we allow in our life. Good relationships support and add fuel to the assignment of God in our life or the works we are called to do (Ephesians 2:10). They help to build us up not tear us down. Our adversary will often work through a relationship to increase or strengthen a personal weakness God wants removed from our life. His strategy is to hinder or stop us from fulfilling God’s purpose. Everyone has weaknesses and God is always faithful to reveal our weaknesses to us before it can be exploited (Luke 22; 31, 32). Most Believers have a tendency to only view discernment as having to do with seeing a demon but they pay very little attention to the people demons can use.
An example of the adversary exploiting a weakness can be seen in Judges 16 in the story of Samson with Delilah. Samson’s weakness was with women. He thought he could play with sin and still walk in the anointing God put on him for his assignment. Samson met his ultimate downfall through Delilah who breathed strength into his weakness. Samson did not need to get involved with many women to break his vow of consecration, it only took one (for Samson, who took a Nazarite vow, it was by cutting his hair Numbers 6:1-8; Judges 16:17, 18). It only required one wrong person to destroy his future. Every relationship will feed either a weakness or a strength in us.
When it comes to a marriage relationship and who God has for us as a lifelong partner, knowing God’s purpose is additionally important. It is important to know God’s calling, gifting, and purpose for our own life and also His purpose for a possible future mate. The gifts and calling of God are not subject to recall. He won’t change His mind about His purpose for either person’s life. What if the calling, gifting, and purpose for each spouse are in conflict instead of complimentary? Will it cause compromise to obeying God? Remember God will continually be working in the person to will and to do of His good pleasure. What if what God is working in a person’s heart is not pleasing to the other party? The mate God has for us should support, help, and advance the purpose for our life.