1 John 4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
1 John 3:1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.
Feelings of insecurity and fear of rejection are common experiences in human relations. We can even strive for acceptance in wrong ways because people with a fear of rejection are always trying to prove their worth. When we try to prove our worth, we are in effect surrendering to others more power than we give ourselves over how we view and feel about ourselves. We should not let someone else’s opinion of us determine our worth. Our worth is determined by the price paid for us – the precious blood of Jesus. “Forasmuch as you know ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as of silver and gold, … But with the precious BLOOD OF CHRIST, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot 1 Peter 1:18, 19.”
Knowing and believing the love God has for us will cast out these fears. People who experience and know they are loved by God have a deep sense of peace and security because they know they’ve been accepted by:
1. THE ONE WHO HAS THE MOST REASON TO REJECT THEM BUT ACCEPTED THEM.
“To the praise of the glory of His grace wherein He hath made us accepted in the beloved Ephesians 1:6.”
2. THE ONE WHO KNOWS THE WORST ABOUT THEM YET LOVED THEM.
“But God commendeth His love towards us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us Romans 5:8.”
The Bible says the fear of man bringeth a snare (Pr. 29:25) but perfect love casts out fear (1John 4:18). The fear of man is involved in fear of rejection but perfect love casts out or repels this fear. We’re also told to behold what manner of love God has bestowed upon us and to know and believe the love God hath to us (1 John 3:1; 1 John 4:16). This is something we need to have early in our life or early in our walk with God. If we are older and have our own children we need to help them to become established in this. If our children would learn to live in the love God has for them and love others the same they will not be tempted to try so hard to get everyone to “like” them. Neither will they fear being rejected or feel the pressure of striving to try to be like someone else. As parents we should pray that God by His Word and Spirit would do a deep work in the heart of our children as to His love for them and their acceptance in the beloved (in Christ).