Jesus said that it was impossible but that offenses would come (Luke 17:1) and that offenses would be a major issue in the Last Days (Matt. 24:10). Psalm 119:165 says, “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” There is an offense protection factor built into God’s Word to keep them from entering your heart and to help us to develop an unoffendable heart. Offenses are the bait of satan to trap our life or to become a stumbling block on the road of destiny. They come deliberately to waste our time in unfruitfulness; stop us from being productive; and to get us to sever divine joinings.
Offenses can cause a wound or breach in your spirit and lead to an offended heart which is a hurt you hold in the heart. It happens like this: when the first word or action happens or the offense comes that offense does not insult or hurt your spirit. It hurts your feelings and emotions. You receive it through your ears and eyes and it penetrates your soul where your emotions are housed. Suddenly you experience discomfort in your emotions. Webster’s dictionary defines offenses as anything that outrages the senses. Second Corinthians 11:28 also reveals offense is anything that ignites the emotions. (Notice it mentions offended then to burn – to kindle, glow, or be ignited). If these emotions or feelings dictate how we will feel and react instead of the Word of God they will lead us to hold that offense in our heart. If allowed to stay there and not be dealt with and removed – it will cause a breach in our spirit and can become a root of bitterness.
Our hearts can hold things. In Luke 6:45 the heart is compared to a treasure where you store stuff. In Mark 4:26 the heart is compared to the ground where things can be planted and roots form. If offense gets in it short circuits the spiritual flows in our life. Proverbs 18:14 says, “The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear it.” The spirit will sustain his infirmity means that our spirit will nourish, hold up, and furnish the means of our living and sustain us in our weaknesses and when we are feeling worn down. That is why we are to guard our heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues or forces of life (Pr. 4:26). Satan uses offenses to stop the flow of God moving in our life. All the gifts or manifestations of the Spirit (1 Cor. 12:7-9) flow from our spirit. All the fruit of the spirit (Gal. 5:22, 23) grows out of our spirit. All of the burden removing, yoke destroying anointing flows from our spirit Is. 10:27). Jesus said, “…out of his belly (our innermost being) shall flow rivers of living water (v.38),” John 7:37-39. 1 Corinthians 2:12 says, “Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.” If we allow ourselves to be offended it stops all of these spiritual forces. Our enemy, by using offenses as bait, when we take offense, does not have to face all these spiritual forces An offended heart occurs when we do not process our wounds in a Christ-like manner.
Controlling our emotions plays a major role in our developing an unoffendable heart. Emotions are indicators of what is going on in our soul. We can control our emotions by controlling our thoughts (2 Cor. 10:3-5). Emotions are a product of our thoughts. There’s never an emotion we are feeling without there also being a corresponding thought. This is why the Word of God says very little about our emotions but it says a whole lot about our thoughts. We can master our emotions. They, of course, need acknowledged not denied or wildly expressed but they are to be the followers of our behavior not the leaders.