Psalm 5:12 For thou, Lord, wilt bless the righteous; with favour wilt thou compass him as with a shield.
Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
Failure to connect with people can hinder whatever we are trying to achieve. In relationships people often respond to how they think we feel about them. We can pray for favor (Psalm 5:12) to connect with people but we also have to sow the right behavioral or relational seeds (Galatians 6:7). It seems contradictory to claim favor with people but at the same time our actions, attitudes, and behaviors toward people are less than Christlike. Sowing and reaping is a law that works whether we sow good seeds or bad seeds. Claiming favor doesn’t override the seeds we may be sowing. There are all kinds of things that can be sown as a seed (words, actions, attitudes, and behaviors are seeds); all kinds of fields to sow into to reap a harvest out of. Here are some ways (behaviors, words, actions) to think about as seeds to sow for a people connection harvest:
1. Sow genuine interest in other people.
2. Sow a smile and eye contact.
3. Sow the most important sound in any language – the person’s name.
4. Sow good listening and encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Sow talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
6. Sow sincere feelings and value of the other person’s importance.
We should also put some energy into being likeable in our interaction with people. It is a seed we are sowing.